What's Love ?

What is love ? It's something so complicated , don't you think so ? What's love to you ? Some told me love is about spending your time with just that 1 person whom you love [ or you've thought you've loved ... ] , some may say it's about commitment , promises and compromises while google tell me that it's a " feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone). " So , what exactly love was ?

Sometimes , you thought you are in love when it's just infatuation . Many of us probably once had that one person whom we thought we love, but realised later on that it wasn't love when someone new came along and this cycle continues .

My love life is so messed up , my shortest relationship was like 1 day , yeah no joke . Apparently , that guy chose to tell me confess to me , sweet talk to me , i accepted him and that he told me he's going to church and never reply me anymore . This guy's a jerk isn't it [ he's not even in my exs list because he's simply playing with my feelings to test if i would fall for his trap and obviously i did ] . Well , was that true love , nah , most probably not , maybe i just fall for his sweet talk and his looks . when i was younger , i don't even know what's love , of course , neither do i now but back then , i simply just falls for looks and not about how the person was deep inside ] . My longest was 5-6months , yes , my first relationship or and my last relationship [ you can read about them in the FAQ section ] .

I fall too easy , fall for sweet talk , fall when guys cares for me a lot [ or maybe they act as if they do ... ] , i fall when guys say things like " who bully you , i'll protect you " , " i love you very much " , " i'm always here for you " , " no one believes you ? I do . I will always believe you " etc .

we all know that love isn't gonna be as simple as just two people being together and having to live happily ever after. All these love movies and fairy tales we grew up watching are not real. Relationship goals aren't true, people only choose to show you what they want you to see, you never know what goes on behind cause no relationship is as flawless as it seems.

Let me share a story , i have this friend who seems so happy with his boyfriend , each time i see them , their always really sweet , i always thought " what a great couple , i ship them " until the day when my friend starts to share with me about what they've been through , their fights , their arguments and all . I was shocked , yes . I always thought they wouldn't have to suffer all these but they do , it's just that they hide it and didn't want other people to know that their relationship isn't a perfect as it seems .

We form such high standards of how we want our ideal partner to be we don't realise these expectations are often unrealistic. Such as wanting ourpartner to be capable to cook , earn a lot of money , owns a good car etc . Girls expect guys to be chasing forever just like how they would in fictional stories, guys get annoyed when girls play hard to get but treat them like trash when they are easy .

Do you know ? I have my own set of standards to meet too ?

1. cannot be too tall [ around 170 ]

2. cannot be older than me by more than 4 years

3. dont smoke and drink or join gang [ basically , it's for the benefits of us isn't it ? ] I wouldn't want to see my boyfriend gets killed in gang fight *touchwood* or see my boyfriend suffer with illnesses such as cancer due to prolonged smoking and drinking of alcohol .

4. chinese [ i'm not being racist or whatsoever , i'm not good in my english language , i'm only good in my mother tongue language and i don't even understand or have the ability to speak other languages [ besides dialects ] .

5. care for me and is thoughtful .

6. don't judge me based on my looks . Hey , i'm not as pretty as thos tumblr girls or those hot and sexy girls you see along the street , i'm just an average or rather under average looking teenage girl . At least , i'm showing you my bare face for now , no makeup , no plastic surgeries , just bare face.

7. Not hot tempered

8. Not a control freak . I seriously hate guys who will stop me to chat with my friends of an opposite gender , i mean like , yeah you are my boyfriend now , you get my 1st priorities but then again , that doesn't mean i lose my freedom to chat with guys , don't you talk to your female friends too ? C'mon , you can be like " no i don't " but don't bullshit , you actually do just that you hide from me .

9. guys who lies . Lies , everyone lies , don't lie that you don't . We lie for our benefit , we lie because we don't want to hurt our loved ones for our mistake , we lie just to make ourselves feel better at times , isn't it ? But lying in this cas means things like " i didn't hang out with her last night " when you did and even brought her home .

10. Insecure . I'm insecure myself , how can i have a insecure boyfriend ? I mean , i'll be like " sighs i'm fat " and my insecure boyfriend will be like " sighs i'm fat too " and then we'll just end up emo-in together the whole damn day right ?

Don't mistake missing someone for loving them. I'm not saying you can't miss someone when you love them, I'm just saying it's probably not love if you only feel for something the moment you lose it. That feeling you feel, is the pain of losing someone who once dedicated their entire life to you.

For instance , i liked my Boss [ will blog about him soon ] , he's such a nice guy , he'll walk with me around the mall because i was feeling down and along the way he'll ask me about my life and my problems , when i brokeup and din't bear to throw the rings away , he helped me to keep it , he'll tell me jokes , he's that kind of cool cool guy who won't speak much , who will act blur , who is just so cute that it attracts a lot of girls but he's never in any relationships before . Yeah , he's such a nice guy to have as a boyfriend but no , i wouldn't make him my boyfriend , why ? Because my love for him is more than a friend but less than a couple . However , he's really the best guy amongst my male friends [ excluding Gab ] .

What's love to you ? Do share with me the meaning to your " love " .

I just watched a show and the actor told a story and I thought maybe I could share with you . It's a story called " the missing piece "

There's a circle but it's missing a piece , it's not a perfect circle . It goes on a search for that missing piece by rolling and rolling away .

Then , it runs into the first triangle . The triangle was like " how about we try pairing with each other ? " which may help the circle be a complete one but it didn't work because the first triangle was too big so the circle is still not a complete one . The two went separate ways . The circle continues to find that missing piece , it keeps rolling until it meets the second triangle .

But it didn't work out because the second triangle is just too small . They went separate ways again since they didn't fit . So the circle continues rolling and rolling until it meets the third triangle .

And it just happens that this third triangle and the circle fits perfectly ! They were like " let's stick together ! " so they spend their time rolling together as one . Eventually the triangle gets chipped away at times because of the rough surfaces . Later on , this third triangle no longer fits with the circle . They went separate ways .

This circle continued going on to find that missing piece . AND GUESS WHAT ? It runs into the first triangle that was too big . But they though " how about we try it just once more ? " so they tried .

At first , they didn't for perfectly and couldn't mesh . But as time goes on and they keep rolling together , they end up perfectly !

Why did I share this story with you ? It's because I feel that it's a meaningful story . Your partner is just like the triangle that's too big ( full of flaws ) and you are the circle that eventually fits with him or her . I want to say that , as long as you don't give up , no matter how imperfect you two are , at the end of the day , you two will be perfect because along the way , you two learn together , been through ups and downs together . I hope you'll understand what I'm trying to say okay ?

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