Trying to fit in - school

Trying to fit in school had been in trend .

There's nothing wrong trying to fit , especially in school but it's wrong when you're trying too hard , somehow .

In secondary school , you will see different people and a whole range of different personalities . Smoking , joining gang , drinking alcohol , clubbing , having tattoo , wearing revealing clothes and all are some things they do to " look cool " and they believe by doing those things , they could fit in and get more friends . Yes , it may be true , in our society , now .

We all know what's right and what's wrong but because we want to look cool and try too hard to fit in , we eventually change our mindsets , we change ourselves . Do you think so ?

Let me list some examples , i have this friend , he was a really quiet person and my first impression of him was a nerd , a guy who is really good in his academics and don't really mix around with people , don't speak vulgarities , was a teacher's pet and speaks english fluently without any singlish but he's no longer the same . Now , he speak vulgarities in every single sentence he make , he starts to bond around with people and he succeeded fitting in with those people .

Next , i have another friend he was born a joker or rather , he jokes without having to try hard . A simple sentence he make could easily bring you laughter , was it just me or was it his ability , i don't know . But , now , he's trying too hard to make jokes out of everything and anything , being " guai lan " ( annoying / irritating , originate from Singaporean Hokkien vulgar word "guai lan 怪膦" (literally 'strange dick'). ) to teachers and some of us [ classmates ] . Why ? Because he want to " look cool " , because everyone laughs when he does that , therefore , he think that it's the right thing to do and that he could gain more friends this way .

Of course , there are other scenario that you , yourself , had experienced before or maybe , you are the one trying too hard . However , it's not exactly wrong 100% because everyone wants more friends rather than haters , everyone wants to look cool , everyone wants to be someone people accepts rather being who they truly are .

What i want to say is that , no matter how much you change for the environment you are living in and the people of our society , never lose yourself totally because that's the real you . You don't have to try so hard fitting in when someone will still love you for your true self . You don't have to be like the rest because you , yourself , is unique , everyone is . Why be like the rest when you're perfect being yourself ?

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